——來自哈佛大學的六個幸福秘訣
People love psychology. Let me clarify that. People love Positive Psychology sometimes called the psychology of happiness.
And the study of happiness seemed to be pretty popular with Harvard students. That year, Tal Ben-Shahar’s class there on “How to get happy” (his words) packed them in at an estimated 900 students.
And what’s the professors advice on happiness?
Well he has six tips about the discovering happiness in your life:
Six Tips For Happiness by Tal Ben-Shahar
1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or anxiety — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.
1.接受自己全然為人。
失望、煩亂、悲傷是人性的一部分。接納這些,并把它們當成自然之事,允許自己偶爾的失落和傷感。然后問問自己,能做些什么來讓自己感覺好過一點。
2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.
2.遵從你內心的熱情。
選擇對你有意義并且能讓你快樂的課,不要只是為了輕松地拿一個A 而選課, 或選你朋友上的課,或是別人認為你應該上的課。
3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?
3. 學會失敗。
成功沒有捷徑,歷史上有成就的人,總是敢于行動,也會經常失敗。不要讓對失敗的恐懼,絆住你嘗試新事物的腳步。
4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.
4.簡化生活。
更多并不總代表更好,好事多了, 不一定有利。你選了太多的課嗎?參加了太多的活動嗎?應求精而不在多。
5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do — or don’t do — with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.
5. 有規律地鍛煉。
體育運動是你生活中最重要的事情之一。每周只要3 次,每次只要30 分鐘, 就能大大改善你的身心健康。
6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.
6. 表達感激。
生活中,不要把你的家人、朋友、健康、教育等這一切當成理所當然的。它們都是你回味無窮的禮物。記錄他人的點滴恩惠,始終保持感恩之心。每天或至少每周一次,請你把它們記下來。